“I love kissing my husband, but I feel he rushes past it. How can I get him to slow down?”
This is a familiar chorus for many women who enjoy the intimate connection that comes with kissing. Oft times, the novelty of those languorously long early make-out sessions wanes as the relationship progresses. This isn’t so much about lack of interest, but more about how daily life intrudes into the romantic bubble, and reshapes that time together. If a guy seems to be rushing, he’s probably just wanting to make sure he gets around the bases before a child runs into the room, or before he needs to get to bed as he’s tired and/or has to be up early for work. He might really be missing those long kissing sessions too, but he’s just looking to get the job done in the allotted time – not very romantic, but more a reflection of a guy’s practical nature.
But there’s hope….
The Kissing Expert suggests a few things to help keep him kissing longer:
Bring Positive Associations to Your Kissing
Conjure up pleasant feelings in a way that could very easily translate to more lip-on-lip time:
- Tell your sweetie how much you enjoy kissing him, how sexy his kissing is, and how excited he makes you feel – a little flattery goes a long way
- Happily remind him of the early days when you just used to “snog” for hours, and how delicious that all was – revisit the fun memories you shared
- Give your kissing time a nickname, e.g., “sugar time”. Then, when you’re in the middle standing in line at the grocery store, or at a social gathering, you say with a wink and a smile – “When we get home, it’s going to be “sugar time”. You’ll be surprised at how quickly he wants to get going!
Take a Few Moments to Set the Mood
Like a lot of things in life, “a little dab will do ya”. The same holds for kissing.
- Send a randy text during the day saying you can’t wait to smooch him later, and then be sure to greet him with a super sexy kiss when he arrives
- Light a few candles, and play some soft music – this relaxes the atmosphere, and the two of you
- Tell him that all you are going to do for the next ½ hour is kiss, and only kiss. Maybe even tell him he can only touch you with his lips, and not with his hands – he’ll like that you are taking command!
If kids abound, make sure there’s a juicy kiss when he crosses the threshold, and then save the mood lighting & music for the bedroom.
Dedicate a Specific Night to Kissing
Here’s a play on “date night” – make one night all about the pleasure of kissing and connecting:
- Instead of dinner and a movie, go park at a “look out” point, or even escape to your garage/driveway, and make-out like teenagers (the randy nature of this will add to the fun)
- Serve single bite-sized appetizers and/or sweets called “amuse-bouche” (also known as “mouth amusers” or “pleasuring the mouth”), and enjoy kissing each other in between sensually feeding one another
- Try different kinds of kisses, i.e., just concentrate on kissing the lower lip only, and then move to the upper lip only (these are some of the tips & techniques from the Kama Sutra’s chapter on kissing) – the variety will freshen things up
This might sound like an effort, but keeping the za-za-zoo alive does take some care and dedication. It’s amazing though how a little care and attention will bring back that pizzazz, and isn’t it worth it?
